Types of Perfectionism
The Controlling Perfectionist
When you need everything just so to feel safe
You have systems for everything. When things deviate from the plan, anxiety spikes. Control feels like the only thing between you and chaos.
The Illusion of Control
Controlling perfectionism is often rooted in anxiety. If you can control the details, you can control the outcome. If you can control the outcome, you can stay safe.
- Deviations from plans cause significant stress
- Delegating feels impossible
- You need things done "the right way"
- Chaos or messiness feels deeply uncomfortable
"Uncertainty is not a problem to solve. It's a reality to embrace."
Finding Peace in Uncertainty
The truth: Control is largely an illusion. Life unfolds in unexpected ways. And you have the resilience to handle it.
Practice: Let one small thing be "wrong" today. Notice that you survive it.